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"Your task is not to seek for love, but to seek all the barriers that you have built against it." - Rumi ❤️
Trust. Vulnerabilty. Lowering barriers. Eeek! This stuff can be scarier than a Stephen King novel. 😱 I'm sure you have struggled with them. For me, each time I survived something awful in my life, I managed to keep my heart open. The only thing I can put that ability down to was my romantic, idealist, optimistic nature. "Was". Did you catch the past tense in that sentence? > A couple of years ago, I was finally brought to my knees. It took A LOT, but the world won. I built walls, barriers, and fences and stopped anyone new from getting close. > Looking back, I know I needed the self-protection (and time) to heal the past, set boundaries, figure out what I wanted, and work on myself. You might need that, too? > BUT . . . as Rumi said, there comes a time when you need to seek your barriers to love. Not only romantic love, but also self-love (the most important), and the myriad other ways to love in friendship, business relationships, dealing with others, etc. > You can never be whole, happy, and healed without love. It is the highest truth of the universe. ❤️ > How do you do it? This is where trust, vulnerability, and lowering barriers comes in! 👌🏻 > All of my books explore these themes in their unique way. Yes, I am aware this is my subconscious aiding me in my journey - and, hopefully, yours! 😊 > Recently, I made the conscious decision to start on my path back to love (of self, others, and the world 🥰). I have, slowly, been letting myself trust, be vulnerable, and lower my guard with you and others. Yes, it's scary. But the path to true love never runs smoothly - I've written enough books to know that! At the same time, it's worth it. Part of me knew it all along. 😊 > How are you working on your barriers to love? ❤️ ⠀⠀ A.K. xxoo . . . #blog #blogger #miniblog #bloggerofig #instablogger #bloggerofinstagram #love #selflove #rumi #trust #vulnerability #barriers #authenticity #thisisme #truelove #loweringbarriers #selfloveblogger #bloggers #rumiquote #writingcommunity #readingcommunity #inspiration #motivation #bereal #begenuine
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💫 MINI BLOG 💫 "You're mine" "You belong to me" "I won't share you with anyone else" ⠀⠀ ⬆️ These comments make me cringe when I read them in a novel, especially the romance genre. They are all an example of possessiveness, which has no place in romance for the following reasons: ⠀⠀ 1. Love is not about owning and/or controlling someone else. - The ONLY personal you can completely control is yourself. ⠀⠀ 2. "True love" has trust at its foundation. - If you have to tell someone that they are yours . . . are they really? ⠀⠀ 3. Possessiveness can be a sign of abuse. - Be careful and alert in any relationship where the above words are spoken. ⠀⠀ Some authors write these possessive statements because it can come across as "protective". However, protectiveness can be written in more positive ways (I know because I've done it!). ⠀⠀ Possessive men and women are NOT a romantic/relationship ideal in real life. You might argue that a novel is "make-believe" but studies have shown that this stuff sinks into the subconscious. ⠀⠀ Young, impressionable, and vulnerable readers need to be guided towards what a REAL loving relationship looks like (art CAN imitate life!). My novels have relationships based on mutual trust, honesty, respect, and open communication - and my characters STILL get into trouble. Yet, it's the former that gets them to their happily ever after, and can in real life as well. As writers, let's model positive behaviours to our readers and stop writing possessive statements. . . . . . #miniblog #blog #blogger #bloggers #writingblog #romanceblog #romanceblogger #romance #truelove #romancebooks #romancereads #trust #possessiveness #control #romancegoals #trueromance #relationshipgoals #romanceadvice #relationshipadvice #love #romancewriter #romancewriting #ireadromance #positiveromance #iwriteromance #positiverolemodel |
About A.K. LeighA.K. Leigh is an international-selling romance author, identical triplet, writing instructor, incurable romantic, love guru, self-love advocate, amateur mystic, mother, sometimes blogger and vlogger, and trauma survivor. Archives
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