At this time of year I often hear men ask (read: complain) about the fuss surrounding Valentine’s Day. Here are my answers to the most common questions:
1. “What is the point?”
Valentine’s Day is about intimacy, connection and, of course, romance. It is a time to show the special person in your life how much they mean to you.
2. “But I show my partner I love her every day, why does there have to be a specific day for it?”
You might think you show her you love her every day, but do you really? Be honest. We don’t always show people how much we love and appreciate them.
3. “It’s just a commercial holiday.”
Yes, you are right. But, I could also argue that birthdays are commercialised, yet you still expect a present and cake. The same is true for Christmas and Easter. If you’re going to play the ‘commercialisation’ card, be an equal opportunity player.
4. “Why should I bother?”
It will make the person in your life feel special and important to you. Most women will not say it, but whenever a bunch of roses turns up at their workplace on Valentine’s Day they ALL secretly wish it’s for them (even the single women). Besides, doesn’t your partner deserve a special day?
Remember, romance doesn’t have to be expensive. It is about showing the person you love how you feel about them, that you appreciate them and that you love them and want to be with them. Here are some tips to bring the romance back but not break the bank:
-Pick some wildflowers and when you hand them to her tell her there’s one for each moment you thought of her that day.
-Write a note describing your best memory of her.
-Make a candlelit dinner at home for the two of you (make as much of it heart shaped as possible).
-Stick paper love hearts on the bedroom walls.
-Place a chocolate rose on her pillow.
-Give her a hand-made card.
-Give her a poem that describes your feelings for her (Google search or write your own).
-Make up a collage related to the two of you.
Come on men, get into the spirit of Valentine’s Day!
About A.K. Leigh
A.K. Leigh is an international-selling romance author, identical triplet, writing instructor, incurable romantic, love guru, self-love advocate, amateur mystic, mother, sometimes blogger and vlogger, and trauma survivor.